While setting out to โgetโ goals met this New Year, there is one โgetโ you may want to consider. โFOR๐๐๐โ!
๐ ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐๐ ๐๐ข๐๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐๐ฎ๐๐ญ๐ข๐ฏ๐ ๐๐ข๐๐- ๐๐ฎ๐ ๐ ๐๐ญ 1
On New Year's eve, I found myself doing some cleaning and organising. If thereโs anything โcompulsiveโ in me, it is clearing and de-cluttering before anything major, including major exams or presentations. This is one activity where I can get lost in time and space, LOL. So, I didnโt realise that it was already midnight (12:00 am to be precise) until my kids shouted out Happy New Year!!!
Exactly then I realized that one of my diamond pendants has gone missing. Gosh! It was a beautiful gift from my husband. Did I carry it to India on my recent trip? Did it fall out of the box? Where could it have dropped? Or had I misplaced it here before my trip? The questions that popped up in my mind were endless.
I just couldnโt believe that this happened exactly as the New Year began, my heart sank and I felt very sad!
โWait! this is not how I had expected to feel first thing in the New Yearโ. I told myself that I can choose to focus on something better. Easier said than done!
The thought of the pendant stuck to my mind like nothing else. The happy screams of my children, the loving hug from my husband wishing happy New Year, and the thought that our family is together this New Year dissolved in my nagging thoughts of the lost diamond.
I could barely sleep that night. That affected the morning of my New Year. I was generally irritable the whole day and didnโt do a thing I had originally wanted to do. I became more irritable.
Finally, I decided to put an end to this. I shut myself in a room and reflected on the experience of losing the diamond.
โWhat was this experience trying to teach me?โ I asked myself silently.
And then it occurred to me.
โ๐ป๐ โ๐ญ๐ถ๐น๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ปโ, ๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐โ
๐ The lost diamond is akin to nagging thoughts of people and things in our life that take up our mental space. It depletes our energy and attention and prevents us from focusing on people and things that truly matter.
๐ Relationships are precious and stronger than a diamond and thatโs what truly lasts forever.
๐ The ability to โForGetโ is important to โGetโ other more important things in life.
In fact, as per a research published in Nature:
โEvolution has achieved a graceful balance between the virtues of remembering and the virtues of forgetting,โ Anderson says. โItโs dedicated to both permanence and resilience, but also to getting rid of things that get in the way.โ
Nature 571, S12-S14 (2019) DOI: https://doi.org/10.1038/d41586-019-02211-5
So the next time something or someone bothers you, think of who or whatโs more important in your life. Divert your mind to whatโs truly precious that will move you forward- not what makes you get stuck and sad!
