FOR'GET' to 'GET'
While setting out to ‘get’ goals met this New Year, there is one ‘get’ you may want to consider. ‘FOR𝐆𝐄𝐓’!
𝐀 𝐅𝐮𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐝 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐏𝐫𝐨𝐝𝐮𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞 𝐋𝐢𝐟𝐞- 𝐍𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐭 1
On New Year's eve, I found myself doing some cleaning and organising. If there’s anything ‘compulsive’ in me, it is clearing and de-cluttering before anything major, including major exams or presentations. This is one activity where I can get lost in time and space, LOL. So, I didn’t realise that it was already midnight (12:00 am to be precise) until my kids shouted out Happy New Year!!!
Exactly then I realized that one of my diamond pendants has gone missing. Gosh! It was a beautiful gift from my husband. Did I carry it to India on my recent trip? Did it fall out of the box? Where could it have dropped? Or had I misplaced it here before my trip? The questions that popped up in my mind were endless.
I just couldn’t believe that this happened exactly as the New Year began, my heart sank and I felt very sad!
“Wait! this is not how I had expected to feel first thing in the New Year”. I told myself that I can choose to focus on something better. Easier said than done!
The thought of the pendant stuck to my mind like nothing else. The happy screams of my children, the loving hug from my husband wishing happy New Year, and the thought that our family is together this New Year dissolved in my nagging thoughts of the lost diamond.
I could barely sleep that night. That affected the morning of my New Year. I was generally irritable the whole day and didn’t do a thing I had originally wanted to do. I became more irritable.
Finally, I decided to put an end to this. I shut myself in a room and reflected on the experience of losing the diamond.
“What was this experience trying to teach me?” I asked myself silently.
And then it occurred to me.
“𝑻𝒐 ‘𝑭𝑶𝑹𝑮𝑬𝑻’, 𝒕𝒐 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒇𝒓𝒆𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒔𝒎𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈𝒔, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒎𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒐𝒏 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒂 𝒍𝒂𝒓𝒈𝒆𝒓 𝒗𝒊𝒆𝒘 𝒐𝒇 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆”
💎 The lost diamond is akin to nagging thoughts of people and things in our life that take up our mental space. It depletes our energy and attention and prevents us from focusing on people and things that truly matter.
💎 Relationships are precious and stronger than a diamond and that’s what truly lasts forever.
💎 The ability to ‘ForGet’ is important to ‘Get’ other more important things in life.
In fact, as per a research published in Nature:
“Evolution has achieved a graceful balance between the virtues of remembering and the virtues of forgetting,” Anderson says. “It’s dedicated to both permanence and resilience, but also to getting rid of things that get in the way.”
Nature 571, S12-S14 (2019) DOI: https://doi.org/10.1038/d41586-019-02211-5
So the next time something or someone bothers you, think of who or what’s more important in your life. Divert your mind to what’s truly precious that will move you forward- not what makes you get stuck and sad!