After reading my recent blog post "FORGET to GET" (link in comments), a friend said - "Good thought, but how to forget"?
"Good question"! I said 😃😅
𝑨 𝑭𝒖𝒍𝒇𝒊𝒍𝒍𝒆𝒅 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒂 𝑷𝒓𝒐𝒅𝒖𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒗𝒆 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆- 𝑵𝒖𝒈𝒈𝒆𝒕 3
Yes it's easier said than done to say 'divert your thoughts from petty matters to more meaningful stuff'.
Negative thoughts can be very sticky. We are wired to focus more on negative than positive. For instance, you have given a great presentation and got great posituve feedback and one minor negative feedback. Instead of focusing on the overall positive feedback, the tendency will be to focus on the one negative. There is research proving this concept called the negativity bias (positive-negative assymmetry).
So how to overcome this. There are few ways to do it. The answer I first suggested to my friend was to raise her self-awareness of when the sticky thought arises, 2) Observing what it is doing to her and and 3) Reframing the thought, situation in a way that best serves you.
But today I had a simple insight from a technical issue as I was giving a lecture.
The issue had me get a bit panicky first.
I had the choice of continuing to be in a panic freeze phase or move on.
I chose the latter.
In an instant I decided to laugh it off.
That instantly lightened the mood and I breezed through with ease.
😁😁😁 So the next time you do a mistake that you want to forget, just laugh it off.
It's not worth burdening ourselves with thoughts that don't serve us. Others are too busy to remember our mistakes beyond a point 😉😁. Just don't do the mistake of reminding them 😉🤭.
Smile and laugh more, let's lighten and liven our world .